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Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.

When a man gets older he realizes that the chance of meeting a childless woman thins dramatically and the question of “how” may come to his mind in dealing with a child that isn’t his.

The single parent dilemma is felt the hardest by the children, and as a product of such a household I am lucky enough to have this insight in my dating life.

Many guys just don’t know how to deal with a child that isn’t theirs and it becomes immediately evident to the child, even when the mom is disillusioned into thinking that the guy is perfect.

You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.

A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.Ladies listen, this man did not get used to a kid screaming like you did, he was not kept up nights tending to the crying and projectile poop, he isn’t seasoned in this.Ask your Teen: If you have a teenager it is very important that you get their approval after an introduction or two is made with your potential lover.If your kid has daddy issues, as in wanting you to stay alone in hopes of your ex coming back into your life – then go ahead and skip the introduction to the new guy.If you have good rapport with your child, have regular talks with them and they respect you, then it is important that you get their approval.Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important.