The first time I met his mom, she could not stop talking about the ex.

My boyfriend is best friends with his ex-girlfriend.

They dated for two and a half years, broke up 5 years ago, have many mutual friends.

They met in graduate school and went through some hard times together, so I understand why they stay friends. They talk on the phone 2-3 times a week, meet up for lunch/dinner.

My boyfriend once told me she’s so important to him that if we ever get married and have a house, she would be invited to our house for holiday dinners.

I have dated guys who were on civil terms with their exes and I was even friends with the exes, so I really don’t think I have jealousy or insecurity tendencies, it’s just that this situation makes me really uncomfortable.

–Irene Dear Irene, Your story reminded me of someone I know – a female friend who has a similar relationship with her ex-boyfriend.It seems pretty clear from the outside that the ex-boyfriend is her best friend and “soulmate”, while the husband is merely the father to her children.I just think the whole situation is disrespectful to me and her behavior is very inappropriate.He’s letting her do that to me and to our relationship.He refuses to distance himself from her and thinks I’m being unreasonable by asking him to do so. She was extremely nice to me, so much so it felt unnatural since she doesn’t know me at all.So, my question is what kind of friendship with the ex is too much? Am I being a jealous girlfriend to feel the way I feel?