‘Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day…

The messages from our childhood are ones of magical, undying love.

These fairytales don’t take into account all the trials and tribulations of real life as we grow older.

A successful long-term relationship is loving and nurturing and fun. Love and falling in love It’s all too easy to fall in love and get caught up in the whirlwind of excitement of planning a life ‘together forever’. Love is one essential ingredient to any successful long-term relationship and yet there is a difference between the ‘falling in love’ type of infatuation that can blind us to some extent, and real, caring love.

In Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, Louis de Bernières describes the difference between ‘falling in love’ and simply loving, a lesson, for many, which is pivotal to the success of any long-term relationship.

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7 Surprisingly Savvy Tips on Dating after Divorce ... Introducing our new guest blog from Kate Thompson, writer, wedding expert and agony aunt over at Confetti.In her post, Kate tells us the secrets behind a successful long-term relationship and gives advice on how to overcome the traditional expectations of romance. Our expectations of ‘boy meets girl’ begin with a prince and princess and highly idealised notions of romance.Falling in love is indeed wild and exciting while loving and being truly loved is much, much more.Keeping that feeling of being connected, whether it’s felt on a romantic, emotional, intellectual or spiritual level, is an essential ingredient for many people in a long-term relationship, and love is at its core.Partnership ‘It takes two to tango’ as they say, meaning if only one partner wants it to work, that’s just not enough.